Enough Is Enough!

(Please excuse any grammatical errors, I am typing quite frantically.)

 

For those of you who haven’t seen the show, a few weeks ago an episode aired where I express that I had been sexually assaulted by someone I knew during my stay in DC, away at college. With this insane public announcement loads of support, love, and encouragement came rolling in, in which I am incredibly thankful for, those kind words do not go unnoticed. On the flip side I had doubters, people who said that’s what I deserved, people who came at me like there was a specific rule book I needed to follow, and so much more. My intentions in sharing my story were to bring awareness to this issue, as well as to let others know that they are not alone in this and to spread the message of forgiveness.

After dealing with sexual assault I went through a phase where I was not comfortable with my body. I did not identify with my body the same, I did not care to see myself naked, I was not proud. After learning to love myself again mixed in with my daily gym regimen I began to look at myself in a different light. I felt sexy again, I felt confident, capable, valuable all of the above. This come back was very noticeable from my interactions with family and friends to the content I began to post on social media. For me, my posts symbolize personal progression. With every photo I take I can almost always remember exactly how I was feeling, what I was smelling, hearing, thinking about, all of the above. I also enjoy looking nice and putting out looks that I was inspired by, as I do love fashion. I choose to be bigger than what I’ve dealt with and to do the things that make me feel good. I choose to be one with myself, with my body. I choose to care of my temple and treat it with the respect and dignity that it deserves. Looking at what I’ve posted in the past gives me a positive gauge of where I used to be and where I am now and that growth is very exciting to me. Maybe it isn’t the conventional kind of growth you’re accustomed to, but it’s ok to get out of your comfort zone and experience new thoughts.

By allowing this level of vulnerability I’ve ran into some pretty sickening obstacles. I’ve received commentary attacking the way in which I carry myself (from women), I’ve gotten negative commentary on what I wear/post (from women), I have also received some of the most unwarranted, unsolicited opinions and suggestions of how I should live my life from people (mostly women) who I have never exchanged a simple hello with. I love interacting with my supporters but I will not engage in negative talk and comments, being challenged and bringing up controversial topics is good, it's what I want. However, there is a fine line between negativity and controversy. 

In times like these, especially because these “times” are more than common I’d expect women, mothers, aunts and daughters to take a moment and really think about what it is that would make us ever want to question a sister or what would make us feel the need to bash. This is a time when we need to band together. A time when we need each other most. No matter how you might feel personally about someone, knowing that they went through traumatic experiences should cultivate a level of care, love, and support. Not judgment and mass loads of critique. Enough is enough! It is time to take a stance to promote and share more love. In this world we already deal with enough hatred and negativity on the daily. I for one will not be a part of the problem, I encourage you to be proactive in sharing and spreading more love. Love is the stem of healing and progression.

 

XOXO

 

-Cyrene Lovette <3

 

Ok Now Let's Get In Formation.

Hey guys! Sorry about the hiatus I've taken from the blog. I've had a lot going on! A lot of changes are being made and I've been in a very CREATive space and I needed to be sensitive to that. Tonight is the finale of our 3rd season of Thicker Than Water. It's been one heck of a journey, thank you all for sticking with me and my family as we go through these changes and adjustments. I wanted to do something a little different for tonight's posting. I recently did an interview with DMVFollowers and I decided to record myself getting ready, especially since I was my own glam squad. I plan`on doing little segments like this to give you all more insight on who I am and things that i'm into! 

XOXO

-Cyrene Lovette 

CREATE

 

 

cre·ate

krēˈāt/

verb

1.  bring (something) into existence.

synonyms:

producegenerate, bring into being, makefabricatefashionbuild,construct; More

·       cause (something) to happen as a result of one's actions.

synonyms:

bring about, give rise to, lead to, result in, causebreedgenerate,engenderproduce, make for, promotefoster, sow the seeds of,contribute to

·       (of an actor) originate (a role) by playing a character for the first time.

 

 

 I never really saw myself as a Creative until recently. As I started to stretch, research, and expose myself to new things my thoughts took a creative turn for the better. I was allotted opportunities to direct photo shoots, give reviews on musical productions, as well as work on set for a few shows and films. Engaging in these experiences helped me access a point of view I was not accustomed to as I was only aquainted to performing in front of the camera. My participation in these productions helped to cultivate my inner creative. I came to realize that I am a creative and we all can be. As a woman, I feel that it’s important that I acknowledge my Creative flow and that of others. My t-shirt line exemplifies something so simple but it means so much, I want my fellow Creators to have a reminder that they to can Create things of substance, originality, and beauty. With Create I wanted to offer a platform for people to express their Creations and be recognized for it. I want Creatives to feel empowered of their own unique thought processes as well as the execution of that process that leads to their ultimate Creation. I want people to be celebrated for what they are able to produce. The mind and the journey that it takes to Create something of value is nothing that should be overlooked. With that being said, on May 21st I will be speaking at the Brown Girl Villiage in Baltimore MD, the shirts will be available for purchase there! I’m super excited to share with you all

hope to see you there!

 

XOXO

 

-Cyrene Lovette

 

 

C - COURAGEOUS

R - REBELLIOUS

E - EMPOWERED

A - ADVENTUROUS

T - TENACIOUS 

E - ENTREPRENEURIAL

New Beginnings

I recently moved into my own place. First time ever living on my own. Initially I was pretty numb about it due to everything I have going on, but now that the bills are hitting and the other adult like responsibilities are settling in I’m realizing it’s a bit overwhelming. These new responsibilities are making me so much more grateful for the upraising that I was granted. It’s making me much more appreciative of my parents and how carefree I was able to be because of their hard work, care, and sacrifice. I am finally getting what I asked for in that I’m allowed real breathing space for the first time. I am looking out for myself and managing all things Cyrene. I have somewhat been set free of my “momager.” The freedom is nice, but I will miss being told to take my vitamins and not to eat gluten every five minutes. 

 

Although I’m jumping into this whole adult thing a little scared, I’m proud of myself for doing this and identifying areas of growth and areas that I still need to develop in at the same time. I’ll never stop growing and I’ll never stop improving - this is what makes life an exciting journey. I’m excited to use this as a stepping-stone to launch me into this new phase of life. 



Shifting gears a bit here but,

 

I’d like to take a moment to address this season of Thicker Than Water and my behavior that’s been exhibited thus far. First and foremost, I do not condone or agree with disrespect - period. It’s not okay to treat the ones you love with disregard. Unfortunately when you work 12-14 hour days in front of a camera, in the midst of trying to figure out who you want to be, and balancing all the things that I balance, things get stressful and I didn’t handle that stress the way in which I should have. Aside from the edits and cuts that I do believe dramatized my behavior on a larger scale, I definitely had some growing and learning to do. I was in a very selfish state at that time and didn’t really care much for anyone or anything unless it was benefitting me. Thankfully I’ve had some time to reflect and review my actions and thought processes since then. I am now in a more clear place with regards to self awareness and awareness of the feelings of others. As I continue to experience more of life on my own and my own terms, I become more and more humble. When facing new things it can be scary and cause us, as humans, to act out of character. This seems to be the season where you all get to see the real me, flaws and all. I am eternally grateful for everyone who has been supportive and patient with me as I grow into who I want to be. Hang in there with me guys! 

 

Sincerely,

 

Cyrene Lovette

XOXO

 

PUT SOME RESPECCKK ON IT!

On April 15th I was allotted the opportunity to go to the grand opening of the RESPECT by PRSVR, Washington, D.C. Flagship Store. The vibe was chic with a nice touch of urban. A lot of D.C's social influencers came out to support and to see the really dope pieces the boutique had to offer. At the opening, there was a fashion presentation titled "Slayed in Dutch" where models wore items from the PRSVR collection. 

Check out the mini clip here

I'm a big supporter of black businesses, especially thriving ones. If you're ever strolling around looking for a quick cute boutique than Respect is what you're after! Make sure you take a visit if you're ever in the area and tell them Cyrene sent you. 

Please visit their website www.respect-dc.com and make sure to follow them on Instagram @RESPECTDC.

 

 

 

 easily one of my favorite pieces they carry! this is a child's, they are in the process of making adult sizes though so you know I gotta cop!

easily one of my favorite pieces they carry! this is a child's, they are in the process of making adult sizes though so you know I gotta cop!

XOXO

-Cyrene Lovette

GLUTEN FREE!

A lot of you have been wondering about my health conditions and how I manage with it.  I was diagnosed with ulcerative colitis in the 9th grade.  Ulcerative colitis is a chronic, inflammatory bowel disease that causes inflammation in the digestive tract. Basically, if I eat any of the foods that I’ve been tested for being allergic to such as gluten, rice, corn, and a plethora of others I have this awful reaction. I begin to vomit uncontrollably, I have diarrhea, when I try and eat I can't keep anything down. I become extremely fatigued and lethargic, this is classified as a flare. Flares vary sometimes, I could recover quickly and sometimes it takes months. Which has recently happened during the second semester of my freshman year at howard university. Over the summer I came to realize how important my health really was. It seems like a basic understanding but when those late night study sessions are finally over and you’re super hungry, that pizza doesn’t sound so bad. I really had to make a decision and have a heart to heart with myself. I was needed to do better, make better decisions and do what’s best for me, which at times isn't the same as my wants. After long battles with myself and my mother (As you have seen on the show) I came to the consensus that I mattered more than that cake or pizza. Now I steer clear of those things. I lean towards the greener foods and my second home might as well be whole foods.

As a result I feel better, I look better, I’m happier, and my doctor is pleased with most if not all of my lab results. They have put me on Humira and thanks be to god, by the grace of God; I was able to successfully finish both semesters of my sophomore year. I couldn’t be more grateful that I took my health more seriously. A cool thing about transitioning into a healthier lifestyle is that your pallet changes over time and now I find myself only craving healthier foods and growing nauseous at the thought of unhealthy foods.

If you all have any suggestions or know of any dope spots that cater to the gluten free eaters like myself! Please share and @ me (@cyrenelovette)

some of my favorite foods and places with awesome gluten free friendly options are:

1.) chef velvet! (chefvelvet.com) I was blessed enough to find chef velvet who caters to all my food allergies, drops off amazing meals, some awesome green juice, and my favorite gluten free red velvet cakes! 

2.) blueprint juices! I am in love with these! Sometimes i drink them as meal replacements! http://www.wholefoodsmarket.com/products/blueprint-juices

3.) ithai! if you know me, you know i love me some asian food! this is one of my favorite spots that offers gluten free food! http://www.i-thairestaurant.com/

4.) skinny pop popcorn, i am obsessed with popcorn so you can imagine how i was excited to find this super healthy gluten free popcorn! http://skinnypop.com/

5.) pho!!! i love some good pho, right on track with my obsession with gluten free asian food! one of my favorite pho places in DC: http://www.dcpho14.com/

 

Hope this helps!!

 

XOXO

 

-Cyrene Lovette

"be good to yourself"

     

 

 

Thanks to my good friend Khari (@khariamir) for this quote, said by Nayyirah Waheed. ^^

I've taken notice that our society, our generation puts so much emphasis on what a relationship should be, what it should look like; in other words establishing “relationship goals”.  

What most people my age don’t realize is that these are the most important, selfish, fundamental, and formative years of your lives. 

The issue is this, we get so caught up in wanting a “bae” that we end up being more infatuated with the idea of the person or having a person than actually being with the person. That's mistake numero uno. Once we’ve proceeded past the “I like you phase” the “I love you phase” and things get a little more difficult than you bargained for you often times wonder how the heck did I get to this point? This is the breaking point. The most difficult and the most often painful point, if you’re anything like me. 

Being in love with the idea of love is dangerous. Not having balance and recognizing the difference between the idea and the actual action can be detrimental to the brain ESPECIALLY at a young age. Oh, how it screws with one's head, the ladies know what I'm speaking on. In retrospect, I’m happy I have experienced what I thought love to be. If I hadn’t I would have nothing to compare it to. As a result, I'm smarter, better, wiser, not to mention an overall happier person. This is ironic because well the guy “of my dreams” was actually telling me I was close to none of these things. 

 GIRLS listen up: DON’T YOU EVER GIVE A BOY(anyone) ENOUGH POWER OVER YOU TO EFFECTIVELY TOY WITH YOUR EMOTIONS. If you feel yourself going into this downward spiral then you should probably readjust the basis of your relationship or run away from the guy as fast as you can. No one, I repeat NO ONE is worth you losing yourself for. You are better than that, you are stronger than that, and you are too valuable for that. (This goes for not just my ladies but, everyone) anyhow it is imperative that you truly connect with yourself in these early adult years. Educate yourself, love yourself, find out what you like and dislike. Have FUN. These are your years to be selfish, if you aren’t married and don’t have kids, take advantage of this! Live your life the way you intended to! Travel, get that body right, eat healthy with that occasional ice cream cone and a cheat meal on the weekends. The last thing you should be worried about is taking care of anyone else! When you make yourself the priority, watch what you can do! The sky is truly the limit.

The one true relationship goal you should have is with yourself. You should use this time to court yourself so that you won’t have to waste that time. You’ll have a keener sense of awareness of your expectations for yourself and henceforth your partners. After all, you gotta love yourself first, and you must teach people how to treat you. With that being said, stop being so pressed to impress others and impress and invest into yourself. The relationship will come but it all starts and with you, your preparation, and loving yourself more.

@10Deep

Happy Monday everyone!

 Lately, I've been into street wear, and one of my favorite brands out the bunch would have to be 10deep. Not only do they have super cute/dope pieces but they're very comfortable as well! 10deep represents strength through independence, something that I can personally relate to. Jose Torres (@thefakejose), an affiliate of 10 deep was kind enough to send a care package my way so I could test out and review some of the pieces! Big thanks to Fred Sands (@ivormerlyknownas) for capturing the double x hoodie look! Make sure you head over to 10deep.com to get your pieces today! All my ladies make sure you use the hashtag #GirlsIn10Deep when wearing their gear on social media! 

 super comfy black ten-deep tee&nbsp;

super comfy black ten-deep tee 

 So Cal vibes wearing my @10deep flannel!

So Cal vibes wearing my @10deep flannel!

 shot by @ivormerlyknownas in my @10deep double x sweatshirt, super comfy and soft!&nbsp;

shot by @ivormerlyknownas in my @10deep double x sweatshirt, super comfy and soft! 

 shot by @ivformerlyknownas in my @10deep double x sweatshirt.

shot by @ivformerlyknownas in my @10deep double x sweatshirt.

 @10deep 10th division tee

@10deep 10th division tee